I am not entirely sure what I thought marriage would be like.
My visions morphed and changed over the years.
Years and years.
I was 34 years old when I got married. 2 years prior to that I had finally released the 2 biggest dreams I’d ever had – marriage and motherhood.
I honestly believed that train had long left the station – and I had missed the ride.
But in 2007, I donned a dress and veil that truly made me feel like a princess. My dad led me down the aisle – both of us had tears in our eyes. He gave me away to the finest man I’ll ever know – the man I share my life, home and love with.
7 years, 2 apartments, 1 house, 4 angel babies and 2 active boys later…
I have learned this:
Love is messy.
It is easy to get caught up in the pretty romance of Hollywood’s portrayal of love, but the fact is: in marriage two very different people from two family cultures, two different philosophies of life, two different philosophies of child rearing, two different philosophies of how the male/female roles play out in the home must somehow come together and build a happy, healthy home where joy and peace reside.
The process is messy.
The process is hard. It requires compromise, and a lot of it. It requires sacrifice, and a lot of it. It requires forgiveness, and a lot of it. It requires grace, and a lot of it.
But if we’re willing to roll our sleeves up and do what needs to be done to make our homes a haven, the end product will be a beautiful testimony in a world where cynicism expects that marriage wont last.
This is why I am so honored to partner with a writer who has influenced me a lot:
I have read Darlene’s book “The Good Wife’s Guide” and it had a great impact on my marriage.
I know that Messy Beautiful Love will not disappoint!