Am I a good wife?
Am I a good mom?
This is a question that I believe continually plagues every wife and mom. And the quest to be a “good” wife and mom often leads to competition battles and lists that define what we believe a good wife and mom to be. Debates over these issues of whether good wives and moms:
keep the home tidy or spend time with their families while the dust piles up
use store bought detergents or make their own
are a size 2 or are a size that “has more to love”
use cloth or disposables
breastfeed or use formula
have natural/home births or opt for epidurals and c-sections
vaccinate or don’t vaccinate
eat only home-cooked/raw/natural foods or occasionally opt for fast-food
homeschool or send their kids to daycare or public school
stay at home or work outside of the home
The list is endless and each mom defends her decisions with a vengeance…backing it up with latest research, or reasons why she doesn’t follow society’s latest “good wife” or “good mom” fad.
But when the lights go out, and she lays in bed at night, the question nags at her…
“Am I a good mom? And I a good wife?”
I think we gravitate to what good does, because it is much easier to meet the standard. Very much like how many, deep inside, connect God’s favor with the good things they do.
We are a society preoccupied with appearance and performance and place lesser importance on character.
And yet, when you look at the definition of “good” in Titus 2:5, you see that it means:
Being joyful and happy
God cares less about vaccinations and diapers or raw or processed foods; whether our kids are home-schooled or attend a public school and whether our homes are cleaned with chemicals or not…
He is, however, very concerned about our character.
Are we pleasant to be around or are we argumentative and stormy?
Do we bring joy to our homes, or tension and stress?
Are we known by others as having good character, or do we have a bad reputation?
Do we have integrity and live our lives by the principles of God’s Word, or do we compromise when it suits us to do so?
Being a good wife and a good mom isn’t about doing, it’s about being…
…it’s about character, it’s about our nature, it’s about the inward man being renewed day-by-day until we are conformed into God’s image.
Because, in the end, man’s standard of goodness morphs and changes according to fad, fashion and society that defines what the role of a wife and mom should be…
But God’s Word is forever established in the heavens; it is never changing; it is solid and unmovable; and the standard by which it measures our goodness is, always has been and forever will be the same!
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