Its true. My husband is not a fan.
This really surprised me when we started dating. He is usually a warm, fuzzy romantic, but he really hates Valentine’s Day. He sees it as superficial. His response to me was, “Shouldn’t husbands and wives treat each other with that depth of love all year long?
The man has a point!
What if every day was Valentine’s Day…minus the expensive jewelry and exotic restaurants.
We’ve only ever gone out to dinner one time on Valentine’s Day. It was while we were dating. It just so happened that he had the day off, so we went out to eat. We decided to something super un-Valentine’s-Day-like: we decided to go out to pizza. It was really hard to find a pizzeria that was actually serving pizza. Most of them – the good ones – were serving more romantic meals: like Chicken Parmezana, Spaghetti and Gnocchi.
Finally, we found a place that was serving pizza. Okay – it wasn’t the best pizza we had (frankly, it tasted like cardboard and ketchup), but it was fun. It was our way of saying, “Babe, when we get married, we’ll try to make everyday super-romantic!”
Sure, we were naive. We haven’t exactly lived up to it all 365 days of the past 7 years. But this year I’m reminded of that.
So, what do you do for a man who is decidedly against the most romantic holiday of the year?
5 ways you can make Valentine’s Day more romantic:
(long title – that’s why I went with the other one!)
1. Make his favorite dinner
Plan ahead and start gathering recipes and ingredients to make his favorite meal. You can even make it candlelight if you’d like. Add some sparkling cider to make it extra-romantic. I’ll be making pizza this year. *grin* I think I’ll make it a tradition. Sounds like fun!
2. Send him romantic texts
Surprise him with a few romantic texts to make the day extra-special. That will make him want to come home!
3. Thank him for working hard to provide for the family
Sometimes we take for granted how hard our husbands work. I know I do sometimes. My husband works 3 shifts, which is very hard on his body. Some weeks he wakes up at 4am to go to work, other weeks he doesn’t get home until around 11pm, while yet other weeks he arrives home around 7am. He works 6-7 days a week – not by choice; but because it’s a secure job.
See how much he sacrifices for us? I am so grateful, but I don’t always show it.
Here’s an idea: get the kids involved! Have the kids make thank you cards and express their gratitude for all he does – keeping the car washed, taking out the trash, making an occasional dinner or barbeque, and fixing things up around the home.
4. Kiss him longer than usual
I like the way Courtney from Women Living Well says it: “Kiss him like you mean it.” It’s sad that most days married couples only peck. Some days go by without a kiss at all. We just get used to one another. Sometimes arguments and disagreements leave traces of bitterness and disappointment, and our hearts grow cold. We have to fight that. We need to ask ourselves, “Do we want a mediocre marriage or a great marriage?”
5. Plan some “us” time *wink, wink*
Surprise his socks off and let the idea come from you this time.
Here’s the thing
If you only do this on February 14 it really loses meaning. Try doing this in March and April, May and June…all the way until December…and then in January, too!
In fact, this year you can let your husband know that you plan to make this a year-long habit by printing off these coupons to give him. You fill in what you want and make the romance last all year long!
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