Why We Chose to Co-sleep
To co-sleep or not to co-sleep, that is the question.
Whether ’tis nobler to sleep betwixt mommy and daddy
or to sleep in one’s crib from day one.
Oh, how I struggled with this.
Our firstborn mainly slept in his crib from the first day. I would wake up, take him to the living room or sit up in bed, and nurse him – until I grew comfortable nursing while lying down. From then I struggled with the fact that I would fall asleep while nursing, which accidentally caused me to *gasp* co-sleep – something that I had understood was strongly advised against because it might
a) be dangerous to the baby and
b) could create a habit I would later have to break.
Both of these reasons hold some value. Yes, one who is a heavy sleeper may, God forbid, roll over on top of their baby. And if one co-sleeps for months on end – yes, this could create a bad habit that may be difficult to break.
Since I am neither a heavy sleeper (sadly) nor do I have no intention of allowing my toddler to sleep in my bed I decided to relax on this with our second born.
And doesn’t it usually go that way? You relax more with each subsequent child.
For the first month our second born slept next to me all night. It was so much easier! I was a lot less exhausted with because I didn’t have to get out of bed, sit up, or turn a light on to nurse him. Thus, I never got to that “all-the-way-awake” stage and didn’t have to fight to go back to sleep. Which is good news for me, since I’ve also never been one to just fall asleep the moment I hit the bed.
My opinion on co-sleeping has changed somewhat. I do not 100% advocate co-sleeping. I do think that co-sleeping the first month can be helpful to both mommy and baby. Offering mommy a greater chance at rest (which is always needed) and baby more comfort and security.
I am, however, a firm believer that every child needs their own bed and should be perfectly comfortable and secure sleeping in their own bed. This goes for mommy and daddy, too. They should have their own bed free of kidletts – and their bed should be in their own room. How else can mommy and daddy get precious alone time? God alone knows how little of that we get once kids come along!
So, here I lie in the middle of the road….and I’m sure it’s liable to get me run over by both sides. *grin*
Update, despite being torn on this subject, I ended up co-sleeping with our second born off-and-on for nearly a year and while the transition to the crib was a little difficult at first, he did transition well and has become my best sleeper!
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Rosilind, a Pacific Northwest native, is a missionary living in Croatia and married to her hero. Together they live in the country with their 2 active boys where she enjoys fruity candles and a hot cup of herbal tea on a blustery fall evening. She holds an Associates of Practical Theology and is passionate about discipling and encouraging women. Her passion for writing led her to author a number of books. She is the author of A Little R & R where she encourages women to find contentment in what God created them to be. She can also be found at these other places on a regular basis. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Google +.