“Be sure to give yourself time to grieve.”
This is the advice I’ve heard many times; both after opening up about my last miscarriage and after the loss of my best friend.
I tossed this advice aside after my miscarriage.
I took some time to grieve, but I found it too painful. The wild and deep emotions I felt made me very uncomfortable and I didn’t know know what to do with them.
After my best friend went home to be with Jesus, I found myself weeping while washing dishes. I prayed this prayer, “Jesus, I’ll do it right this time. I promise you, I’ll grieve properly this time!”
There were four of us that made up what we called “Blogging Besties”. On March 21, 2017 the four of became three. The next day we purchased the book “Grieving With Hope“.
I wasn’t at all surprised to see that same advice I’d received from my friends right there in chapter one.
In fact, I discovered that many of the emotions I’ve felt while grieving were normal and important to the grieving process.
While many people may lay out the emotional process of grieving in neat layers on the journey to healing, in chapter one we read that this journey isn’t quite so neat. Throughout the journey we may go back and forth between those varying emotions. We may, in fact, feel we’re doing quite well when suddenly a sound or smell sends us reeling back into a flood of emotions we thought were long past.
Does this mean that we aren’t strong in the Lord?
Does this mean our faith is small?
Not at all.
Grief over the loss of a loved one is indication that we enjoyed a bond with that person. God created us for relationship and He gave us the ability to bond with people.
In fact, He created us with a need for that bond; a need that He chooses not to fill.
That person met that need in our heart.
Yet, there is a need in our heart that only God can fill, and that is our need for comfort and hope. Any comfort or hope that we receive from any source other than God is temporary and unhealthy.
True hope and comfort can only be found in God’s Word, and that is why when, in Grieving With Hope, I read the multiple quotes by people who have faced incredible loss, urging readers to spend quality and quantity time in God’s Word and in prayer, I knew that this book was going to be great!
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- Rosilind, a Pacific Northwest native, is a missionary living in Croatia and married to her hero. Together they live in the country with their 2 active boys where she enjoys fruity candles and a hot cup of herbal tea on a blustery fall evening. She holds an Associates of Practical Theology and is passionate about discipling and encouraging women. Her passion for writing led her to author a number of books. She is the author of A Little R & R where she encourages women to find contentment in what God created them to be. She can also be found at these other places on a regular basis. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Google +.