I know a thing or two about failure.
If I could go back in time, there are a lot of things in my past that I’d do differently. There are a lot decisions I’d change.
We can all look back at our past and make a list of things we wish we’d done differently. Hindsight is always 20/20.
But when we embrace God’s grace, we discover that our failures are merely opportunities.
Opportunities to start over.
Opportunities to embrace God’s grace to get up, dust off our knees, and move forward.
Opportunities to allow God to weave our failure into a glorious story of second chances and forgiveness.
Here are three things you need to know about failure:
1. We can redefine failure. All our lives we’re taught that failure is a bad word, but successful people have come to realize something that the rest of us have yet to learn. Failure isn’t a dirty word at all, it is an opportunity!
In today’s society failure is not tolerated. Perfectionism is elevated. Our lives have to be Instagram-worthy, edited and airbrushed. But that’s not real life. In real life we fail, we fall.
But if we want to live a life of joy, if we want to embrace our identity in Jesus Christ, we must learn to redefine failure. Failure is really just an opportunity.
An opportunity to learn from what made us fall
An opportunity to learn from didn’t go as planned
An opportunity to explore a new avenue when we hit a dead end
Even when we sin, failure is an opportunity to reach out and embrace God’s grace and forgiveness.
Look at Hebrews 11 – the hall of faith. Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Rahab, Gideon, Samson, David, and Samuel…not one of these were perfect. In fact, they were far from perfect; they were dysfunctional, all of them. Some of them committed sins none of us would ever even think of doing. And yet, there they are in the hall of faith.
2. Failure doesn’t have to define you. We live in a society that labels and compartmentalizes people. Because society has defined the ideal person by their appearance, behavior, mental ability, and career, we’ve allowed it to also label those who don’t measure up to that ideal.
The longer we’ve allowed this continue the more labels are created to fit those who don’t fit inside the various and numerous molds society has created for all of these ideal and non-ideal people. As a result, we’ve allowed failure to be one of those labels. As a matter of fact, there are many other labels that, in many people’s opinions, are synonymous with failure.
But when we choose to identify ourselves with Jesus Christ, and not society’s labels, we realize that failure no longer defines us! In fact, we are free to see those around us as God created them – uniquely, fearfully, and wonderfully made in the image of God Himself; not with a label, not in a mold, but created with love and care just as they are.
When we cease to allow failure to define us, we are free! Free to accept ourselves as we are created and free to accept others as well.
3. Failure doesn’t have to be permanent. Failure can be only a moment in time, an event, if we let it. When we change our perspective of failure, we realize that it is just an opportunity to get up and try again, we’re free to make it just a blip on the screen and not an ongoing event that takes over our life.
What frees us to make failure a short-lived event, and not an ongoing one, is how we define failure and how we define ourselves. When we no longer define ourselves as a failure, but as a child of the King, we are free to allow failure to simply be an event that is a moment in time, and not a huge production that overshadows our life day after day.
Below are 15 quotes that remind us to keep failure in proper perspective.
“Failure is an event, not an identity.” – F. Dean Hackett
“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
“Never let success get to your head; never let failure get to your heart.” – Anonymous
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash
“Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.” – Benjamin Franklin
“Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success.” – C. S. Lewis
“It’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts.” – Zig Ziglar
“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” – Abraham Lincoln
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison
“Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.” Zig Ziglar
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill
“Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.” Robert H. Schuller
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- Rosilind, a Pacific Northwest native, is a missionary living in Croatia and married to her hero. Together they live in the country with their 2 active boys where she enjoys fruity candles and a hot cup of herbal tea on a blustery fall evening. She holds an Associates of Practical Theology and is passionate about discipling and encouraging women. Her passion for writing led her to author a number of books. She is the author of A Little R & R where she encourages women to find contentment in what God created them to be. She can also be found at these other places on a regular basis. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Google +.